Articles by Gary Roe
Thanksgiving While Grieving?
I hope you are doing well today. Thanksgiving is almost upon us. When we're grieving, the Thanksgiving holiday comes with all kinds of challenges. What are we supposed to do with this? How do we navigate special days that are supposed to be about family, togetherness,...
Eight Keys to Getting Through the Holiday Season
In my last post, I talked about Why Holidays are So Hard. We covered eight reasons why this season is packed full of challenges for grieving hearts. Today, we're going to talk about what we can do about those challenges. The overall key to staying sane and getting...
Why Holidays are So Hard for Grieving Hearts
Last week, we had another Zoom Virtual Hangout where we talked about Why Holidays are So Hard. I wanted to give you a brief summary of what I presented. Before I dive in, if you didn't register for the session but would like to view the recording, please reply with...
How Do We Stop Being So Hard on Ourselves?
In my last post, I talked about seven reasons why we tend to be hard on ourselves while grieving: 1. Perfectionism.2. The desire for control.3. Being super-responsible.4. Guilt / Shame.5. Keeping up appearances.6. The need to be strong.7. Past pain, trauma, and...
Why We’re Hard on Ourselves While Grieving
Why are we grievers so hard on ourselves sometimes (or maybe all the time)? You would think we would realize that a devastating loss would bring life as we know it to a grinding halt. But the reality is that we don't know what to do when loss strikes. Loss is often...
“I can’t even get grief right!”
"I can't even get grief right!" Stacey felt like a failure. Her recent loss had taken a huge toll. She felt like a child again. She felt vulnerable. She felt small. She felt like she couldn't do anything well or get anything right. Like she didn't know anything...
Is Grief Stress Messing with You?
Grief is a form of stress. Grief is an ongoing, intense form of stress. This grinding, relentless stress messes with us. "Messes with..." is a common phrase where I live down in Texas. Perhaps it came from an anti-litter campaign decades ago called "Don't Mess with...
New book Soul Cry is now available!
I wanted to let you know that Soul Cry is now available. Soul Cry is currently on new release special for the next few days: The Kindle edition is more than 80% off its eventual retail price at only $0.99. The Nook and eBook editions are also currently only $0.99. The...
When We’re Tired of Pain
I wanted to let you know that my new book Soul Cry: Devotional Prayers for Wounded, Grieving, and Suffering Hearts is now available. I'll post some links very soon where you can take a look. Soul Cry is a daily prayer devotional that covers three months, with a total...
A Big Frustration-Producer in Grief and in Life
Lately, I've become very aware of a particular frustration-producer in life and in the grief process. Expectations. I'm noticing that almost every time I'm frustrated, disappointed, angry, or anxious, something that I expected to happen didn't or something that I...
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