Articles by Gary Roe

Finding Peace Amid the Holiday Grief Chaos

Loss is terribly painful. The grief journey can feel chaotic at times. Especially at around Christmas. For grieving hearts, this season can elevate our pain even further. We can feel sad, angry, depressed, anxious, fearful, guilty, and confused. Emotional overwhelm is...

When We’re Drained and Exhausted

Loss is terribly painful - especially during the holiday season. Christmas is coming. Soon. Grieving hearts are already drained and exhausted. How are we supposed to "do" Christmas? Here's another Grief Affirmation for you. This grief journey is draining. I will be...

We All Need Good Counselors

The grief journey is tough, especially during the holidays. Grief triggers are everywhere. Aromas, Christmas songs, decorations, holiday sights and events. Our hearts are packed full of memories from this time of year, so almost anything can surface the grief within...

Lonely and Grieving for the Holidays?

Loss is terribly painful. The grief journey can be very challenging - especially over the holiday season. Thanksgiving is behind us. Christmas looms ahead. Someone is missing. This hurts. And it's lonely. Terribly lonely. How do we do this? Here's a Grief Affirmation:...

Wishing You a Blessed Thanksgiving

Today I'm writing to wish you a blessed Thanksgiving. I've had a lot of losses. So have you. Yet, I'm thankful. I have been blessed - greatly blessed. I am still blessed - immensely so. You are among my many blessings. I thank God for you. Thank you for...

How do I deal with this awful anxiety?

I feel shaky inside. I’m skittish and nervous. I’m anxious about everything now. What is happening to me? How do I deal with this? Anxiety is extremely common during times of loss. Most of us deal with some anxiety on a daily basis. We live in an anxious world. Some...

Why Does This Hurt So Much?

My heart is in such pain. I feel like I’m in pieces. I’ve never experienced anything like this. Why does this hurt so much? Loss hits our hearts. The pain of losing someone we love can be deep and debilitating. We are designed for relationship. We come out of the womb...

Where Did Everyone Go?

"Where did everyone go?" I've heard this statement many times from grieving hearts. After a loss, our relationships begin to change. People pull back. Some disappear. Others try to support us but have no idea what to do. Still others evaluate us and tell us what to...

What do I do when grief leads to anger?

I’m angry about what happened. Surely someone could have done something. Why did this have to happen? Why do we have to die? What do I do with this anger? Anger is a powerful emotion. It is a natural and common part of the grief process. Almost everyone experiences...

When Grief Leads to Guilt

After the death of a loved one, guilt tends to surface. We wonder what we could've done that we didn't. There are things we did and said that we regret. "I feel guilty," is a common statement from grieving hearts. The following is an excerpt from Comfort for Grieving...