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[dropcap2 variation=”coffee”]K[/dropcap2]nowing whom to trust is huge. Massive.
I tend to trust quickly and easily. Unless you give me a reason not to, I’ll usually trust you by default.
There are exceptions to this. Because I was sexually abused as a child, I have a built-in antenna for certain kinds of abusers (sexual perpetrators, scammers, violent personalities). When I come into contact with someone like this, my antenna goes off and I know that something is wrong, even though all may look and sound right.
I call this the antenna of experience. You have it too.
I also have a naïve streak. I’ve had the wool pulled over my eyes more than a couple of times. Maybe you have this streak too. What do you tend to be naïve about? What kind of person has been able to deceive you in the past?
So, how can you know whom to trust? Here are some suggestions:
- Consult their track record. Are they a generally trustworthy person?
- Consult people you already trust. What do they think?
- Consult your personal antenna of experience. What’s your gut telling you? Is there something you can’t explain that warns you away from this person?
- Consult your naïve streak. If you know where you’re vulnerable, you can begin to recognize the deceivers when they appear. Is the person in question similar to those who have taken advantage of you in the past?
Ultimately, trust is earned. Look out for anyone who seems to be demanding more trust than you are ready to give.
There are plenty of trustworthy and safe people out there. First, let’s make sure we’re trustworthy and safe. Then let’s find each other and grow.
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