This is a tough post to write. It will be hard to read. But it’s true. We’ve lived it. We’re still living it.
COVID. Coronavirus disease.
Two-and-a-half years ago, we had never heard of it. Today, it seems to work it’s way into almost every conversation.
The COVID Era has been one of tumultuous upheaval, change, uncertainty, and death.
I’m certain almost all of us have experienced the death of someone we know during this time.
Many of us have endured the deaths of several of our loved ones and close friends.
We experienced other deaths during this time too. We are still experiencing them.
All the rules changed.
Our lives were squeezed, restricted, and locked down.
Our routines of work, relationship, and life were shattered.
We were separated from our loved ones. We could not get to them. We were kept from them.
We were left wondering what was happening. On edge, we waited for information, calls, and updates.
We didn’t get to hold their hands. We didn’t get to tell them we loved them over and over again.
We didn’t get to say goodbye.
They died without us.
For some time, we could not gather. Funerals and memorial services were put off, postponed, or held virtually. More weirdness. More separation. More frustration.
On top of all that, many have deep questions about what happened and why. Some
I could go on and on. COVID has brought with it a plague of grief complications. None of us realizes the depth of the damage it has wrought on us.
Simply put, the COVID Era has been a grief disaster of epic proportions. It has changed our world. It has changed us.
How do we unpack all this?
How do we heal from the shocking pain this era has inflicted upon us?
How do we adjust and grieve well amid all these challenges?
This is what our next Zoom Virtual Hangout will be about. I don’t exactly know when that will be yet. I’ll keep you posted.
Though loneliness is a big part of grief, none of us is alone. We’re in this together.
Please be patient with yourself today. This is hard.
Question: Have you experienced COVID Era losses and deaths? What has been hardest for you?
I lost my husband of 19 years due to covid on 11/5/2021. he was only 40 years old. we had so much more in life to do together its been hard watching others who have gotten it and watch how easily they are recovering now from it just by staying home. had we not gone to the hospital I wonder if he would have had a better chance to overcome it where as the hospital treated him as a number not a person. its been really hard thru this pandemic thats for sure.
Hi Krysn. Thanks for sharing this. I’m so sorry. You are not alone in this. So many others have such similar stories of this pandemic time. And yet each one of us is unique with a unique loss. I’m so sorry about your husband. What a terrible tragedy. Please be very kind to yourself. Let the grief come and express it as you can. Please feel free to reach out anytime. Praying for you now…
As a supporter of those who have walked this path, many who do not have a strong faith connection to help with the big why questions, and not being able to be with a loved one has been one of the harder things we deal with. No real goodbye, no touching, and of course the divisiveness over this topic with all the conflicting information.
Thank you,
Hi. I have experienced a Covid loss. On May 27th, 2020 I lost my husband Mark. I got Covid first (fairly mild) and gave it to him. He passed 6 weeks later. He suffered so much. He died in my arms, a gift as he wasn’t alone and his suffering was finally over. He fought so hard to live. Two years later I still grieve for him. Life as I knew it died that day too. I miss him every day. He was only 63.
I recently lost my spouse to Covid which he contacted while a patient in the hospital. Due to Covid restrictions I nor any of our family and friends were allowed to visit him while he was in the hospital for almost 6 weeks due to an unrelated illness. I thank God my children and I were allowed to see him 4 days before he died and was still semi lucid, as they knew he was going to die and we were able to be with him the day he went home to be with God. We had to make the very difficult decision to remove him from life support and let him die in peace and end his suffering. I will never ever forget that day or how looked struggling for air before God took him home. I have 2 of your books on grief and follow you on YouTube. Your messages are always a great comfort to me as I travel this grief road I am on. I cannot wait for your upcoming Zoom session. Thank you for being there for us Gary and may the peace and love of our Lord Jesus be with you always.
Yes losing my husband all because of darn covid
I lost my mother, she could not get out if covid. She lost her appetite could not eat. Lost many pounds because of that. I was not allowed to see her. She was alone in the hospital for a week. She was 951/2 died Aug 26 2021. I think if her every minute. I miss her so much. She was my life.