Recently, I did a Zoom Session for subscribers where I shared some Grief Resolutions for 2021. The response was so positive, I thought I would share them here.

Resolutions, Affirmations, Truths.

Frankly, I’m not a big fan or resolutions. I prefer to call the following “affirmations.” These are things that are true and healthy for grieving hearts. As we embrace these truths and begin to live them, our hearts heal, adjust, recover, and grow.

There are some hard truths below, but they are true nonetheless. Take your time, Read on.

I will give myself permission (time and space) to grieve.

It’s okay to hurt. Our hearts have been hit. We must give ourselves permission to grieve, because the world around us may not.

I will be honest about what’s happening inside me and express my grief in healthy ways.

Our grief will be expressed, one way or another. As we commit process and express our grief in healthy ways, we can heal, adjust, recover, and grow over time.

I will take good care of myself, knowing that the best gift I can give myself and others is the healthiest me possible.

Self-care often gets neglected when we’re stressed. Now is the time, however, to pursue personal wellness like never before. The helps us grieve well and honors those we’ve lost.

I will give others permission to not understand or support me the way I would like.

Let’s be honest. No matter what we do, many will not understand. Some people will disappoint us. We protect our own hearts when we release them from whatever expectations we had. It’s helpful to remember others’ responses are more about them than about us and our loss.

I will release offenses and forgive quickly so that my heart is not overly influenced by others’ words and actions.

Forgiveness is not for the other person. It’s for us and our hearts. If we refuse to release the offenses of others, we only give their words and actions more power over our lives.

I will guard my heart from people and influences that are not helpful to me.

Your heart is who you are. It deserves to be nurtured and protected. Not everyone or everything is helpful to us.

I will find safe people who will walk with me on this challenging journey.

We need good companions for this arduous, painful journey. We need people who will enter our world, accept us as we are, and listen well.

I will find ways to serve others and use my grief as fuel for good.

Part of healthy grieving is getting out of our own heads and serving others. If we’re willing, loss can teach us to be more compassionate and loving. When we serve others, we heal a little, thought we might not feel it at the moment.

I will cultivate peace of mind and heart and be a peace-giver to others.

We all need peace of mind and heart. When we commit to peace-promoting, our own hearts stretch, heal, and grow in the process. Even while grieving, we can make a massive, meaningful difference in the world around us. You are more important than you know.

2021: Choosing to Love, Serve, Heal, and Grow

What will 2021 bring? We have no idea. No matter what, we can choose to grieve in healthy ways that honor our own hearts and our loved one. We can choose to love, serve, heal, and grow.

We can choose to be some of the Difference Makers this world so desperately needs.

Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself. Take good care of yourself. We need you.

Which of these Grief Resolutions resonated with you? Take a moment and share via a comment or email.

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