Pain runs deep. Early scars are powerful, and sink into the darkest recesses of the heart. Catastrophic wounds can throw us into survival mode for a while.

No matter how old the wound, with the right trigger, the pain can become incredibly fresh again.

Grief is like that.

 

Pain Messes with our Sense of Time

“It all seems so strange. I can still see him in his recliner. I still hear him in the kitchen. I dream about him at night,” Ellen said.

“It’s been eleven months, but it feels like yesterday.”

Death, loss, and trauma mess with our sense of time. For a while, it’s like life is in slow motion. Some people have memory gaps – periods of time during their grief or painful experiences that they don’t remember at all.

It can also seem like everything is happening at once, and life is flowing quickly past while we’re standing still. Dazed, we see this activity but it doesn’t seem to register somehow.

 

Dazed and Confused

Deep wounds have huge shock value. Everything is different now, including our sense of time. Grief and loss are like some weird alternate universe. The whole experience is surreal.

Time has a different meaning now.

 

Here’s a new grief affirmation:

“Weren’t you here only a moment ago? You seem so close sometimes.”

 

Grief messes with our sense of time.

“Grief … Up till this I always had too little time. Now there is nothing but time.”
C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

 

Adapted from Heartbroken (Amazon Bestseller, USA Best Book Award Finalist, National Indie Excellence Book Award Finalist).

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