There are times in life when everything seems gigantic.

For example, we’re vulnerable when in the midst of:

  • Conflict
  • Stress
  • Tragedy
  • Abuse
  • Loss
  • Death
  • Grief
  • The unknown

These are just a few of things that can grip and squeeze us with seemingly merciless power. Our normal elasticity isn’t there, and we tend to react rather than respond.

 

When someone exits, everything seems big

“Everything that happens is big now. Every little issue is magnified, because I’m by myself,” Tiffany shared, wringing the napkin in her hand.

“I get sad and mad at the same time. Why am I having to do his job?”

Tiffany’s husband Rick died suddenly in an auto accident. Once the shock began to wear off, she got hit with a new reality.

There were two of them. Now it was just Tiffany. That meant everything fell on her.

 

Life just keeps coming

The world keeps on spinning, deaf to our pain. More paperwork arrives. Bills come. People demand attention. The house is screaming for attention. There’s work to do. Your to-do list is a mile long.

This can be overwhelming.

  • You wonder how you’re going to do it all.
  • It seems so unfair.
  • You’re already exhausted.
  • Grief is draining.
  • Can’t you just mourn in peace?

Even the smallest issues now feel gigantic. And they just keep coming.

How are you going to do this?

  • Take a moment.
  • Get quiet.
  • Breathe deeply.
  • One thing at a time.

Now, what’s most important?

Start with that.

 

An affirmation for today

Say this with me, and say it out loud:

“Even little things seem huge in times like this. It’s not me. It’s grief. One thing at a time.”

Grief can make the smallest issues seem gigantic. That makes sense. Nothing is “normal” now.

 

Adapted from Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse (Amazon Bestseller, National Indie Excellence Book Award Finalist)
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