Loneliness is awful.
I’ve felt alone many times. At times, loneliness seemed to take over my life. I still feel alone more than I admit, even though I’m constantly surrounded by people.
Alone Together
Recently, I ran across a book titled Alone Together. Those two words resonated with me. We say we’re connected because we have more access to one another – email, social media, smart phones, etc. But our technology skims the surface. Attention spans are shrinking. Things seem less safe and secure, causing us to be more private and withdrawn. Things are more global, but less personal.
Then there are the hits – the emotional bullets of life:
- Conflicts
- Break-ups
- Estrangements
- Mental and physical illness
- Financial trouble
- Accidents and disasters
- Deaths
Our lives are in constant flux. All this can leave us stunned and gasping for breath. Feeling alone together has become the norm.
Why Loneliness Hurts
Loneliness hurts. Here’s why:
- We were created for relationship and made for connection.
- Our hearts long to see and be seen, to hear and be heard, to understand and be understood.
- We hunger to love and be loved.
- Our joys and regrets are relational (they are connected to other people somehow).
No wonder loneliness hurts. It’s the opposite of what we’re wired for.
FOUR TRUTHS THAT CAN HELP
There is no magic pill for loneliness. But here are four truths that can help:
1. It’s okay to feel alone.
I tried to ignore loneliness. I gritted my teeth and said, “I will not feel alone. I will not feel alone. I will not feel alone.”
A lot of good that did me.
Feeling alone is part of being human. It comes and goes for all of us. The problem is when loneliness unpacks its bags and takes up residence in our hearts.
Sometimes accepting our feelings is the first step beyond them.
2. Feelings are just emotions. They aren’t necessarily reality.
Our world glorifies feelings. Our emotions seem to run the show. As a counselor friend of mine says, “Mood is king.”
We’re constantly looking to feel good, and if we don’t, we think something’s wrong. And when we’re in pain, we’ll do almost anything to feel better (which can be dangerous!).
Feelings are momentary. Living based on emotion is like chasing after the wind.
3. You’re not alone in feeling lonely.
Almost everyone experiences loneliness on some level. Your emotions are your own, but someone around you is dealing with something similar right now.
The valley of loneliness is more populated than we realize.
4. Being with safe people can make a huge difference.
What’s a safe person?
- They take your heart seriously.
- They accept you (with all your stuff) as you are.
- They don’t try to fix you.
- They are willing to walk with you in your valley.
Many safe people have battled loneliness, and won. That doesn’t mean they never feel lonely, but they no longer allow emotion to rule their lives.
This is what we thirst for – real people who see us, and stay. Spending time with safe people brings healing.
There’s Hope for Us Lonely Folks
Loneliness is part of living in this often harsh, competitive, and disconnected world. It’s all around us, everywhere. The book title was right. We are alone together.
But there is great hope. In this frenetic and fast-paced age, hearts can still connect. Soul wounds can still be treated, and healed. We might all walk with a limp, but we can still walk together.
Lonely? Perhaps.
Alone? Far from it.
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2 1/2 yrs ago my dad passed away…5 wks later my only daughter unexpectedly passed from a aneurysm….she was 35..took us 10 yrs to have her …she was a mother of two age 9 and 16 months ….i have never felt such loneliness and grief.my husband leaves when I cry..last June I had a breakdown ..i resent him not supporting me when I need it most …we are emotionally disconnected…47 yrs married and I see how people divorce after child loss ..i have 2 sons and 4 grands but father of the two that lost their mom ran us off..they live 1 mile away ..we can’t suport him financially so this is our heartache ..he has a girlfriend and new son …i miss my grandkids and daughter my heart is broke
Hi Pam. I’m so sorry. That sounds so lonely. So many losses – as if the original loss of your daughter and dad wasn’t enough. Please be very kind to yourself. You’re carrying an immense emotional load right now. Now is not forever. Continue to do what you know to do to take care of yourself and grieve in healthy ways. And please reach out here any time. I’m praying for you now…
This is most definitely the most difficult issue for me. I lost my only child and 19 months ago my second husband. My Dad and brother live 1800 miles away.
I am so thankful for friends from my Church and previous Church. But the evenings and weekends are still so hard for me. Being disabled, I can only get out when I feel capable enough.
I miss my son and husband so much!
Hi Patti. I’m so sorry. Oh my. You are dealing with a lot. I’m so glad you have those friends and spiritual support. Keep breathing deeply. And stay connected. Please feel free to share anytime. Praying for you now…
This is most definitely the most difficult issue for me. I lost my only child and 19 months ago my second husband. My Dad and brother live 1800 miles away.
I am so thankful for friends from my Church and previous Church. But the evenings and weekends are still so hard for me. Being disabled, I can only get out when I feel capable enough.
I miss my son and husband so much!
Hi Patti. I’m so sorry. Oh my. You are dealing with a lot. I’m so glad you have those friends and spiritual support. Keep breathing deeply. And stay connected. Please feel free to share anytime. Praying for you now…
This is most definitely the most difficult issue for me. I lost my only child and 19 months ago my second husband. My Dad and brother live 1800 miles away.
I am so thankful for friends from my Church and previous Church. But the evenings and weekends are still so hard for me. Being disabled, I can only get out when I feel capable enough.
I miss my son and husband so much!
Hi Patti. I’m so sorry. Oh my. You are dealing with a lot. I’m so glad you have those friends and spiritual support. Keep breathing deeply. And stay connected. Please feel free to share anytime. Praying for you now…
Great article. I think Margery summed it up best by what she said about not having that special person and not being special to someone else. I was married for 34 years. l have family that I know loves me, but they have their own lives. It’s not like having that companionship I had with my husband. I can’t talk to others the way I could talk to my husband. What you said is true Gary. Even when I’m around other people I still get that alone feeling, especially if they’re with someone. The loneliness hits me worse at night when everything’s quite and my mind is less occupied.
Hi Kay. I so agree with you. Night can be the worst – at least, it was for me. We have holes in our hearts – and those will remain. But we can still heal, and learn to live with those holes. In fact, it’s amazing we can go on – but we do. Blessings…
Great article. I think Margery summed it up best by what she said about not having that special person and not being special to someone else. I was married for 34 years. l have family that I know loves me, but they have their own lives. It’s not like having that companionship I had with my husband. I can’t talk to others the way I could talk to my husband. What you said is true Gary. Even when I’m around other people I still get that alone feeling, especially if they’re with someone. The loneliness hits me worse at night when everything’s quite and my mind is less occupied.
Hi Kay. I so agree with you. Night can be the worst – at least, it was for me. We have holes in our hearts – and those will remain. But we can still heal, and learn to live with those holes. In fact, it’s amazing we can go on – but we do. Blessings…
Great article. I think Margery summed it up best by what she said about not having that special person and not being special to someone else. I was married for 34 years. l have family that I know loves me, but they have their own lives. It’s not like having that companionship I had with my husband. I can’t talk to others the way I could talk to my husband. What you said is true Gary. Even when I’m around other people I still get that alone feeling, especially if they’re with someone. The loneliness hits me worse at night when everything’s quite and my mind is less occupied.
Hi Kay. I so agree with you. Night can be the worst – at least, it was for me. We have holes in our hearts – and those will remain. But we can still heal, and learn to live with those holes. In fact, it’s amazing we can go on – but we do. Blessings…
I lost my husband also almost 3 years ago
After a long battle with heart disease
It just about did me in seeing him going from this big strong man suffer so much. We were marriied almost 24 years
About 6 months ago I met a really wonder man
We both have been through so much
He with a very messy divorce, me with death
But I really feel we are good for each other
Taking it slow very slow. I really did not every think I would be able to have these feelings again
I still miss my husband so much, not sure I will ever get over him, I know he is in a much better place now, he made me promise him I would not live the rest of my life alone, I really think he had a hand in me meeting Mike, I really think he would be happy for me.
HI Sharon. I’m so happy for you. Yes, we get surprised, don’t we? We come away from something devastating – heartbreaking – and then something wonderful happens. My story is similar, so I sort of get it. And I KNOW you husband would be happy for you. And of course you still miss him. He has an always-place in your heart. He will never be replaced – but you can heal and grow. And you are doing that. Thank you for sharing!
I lost my husband also almost 3 years ago
After a long battle with heart disease
It just about did me in seeing him going from this big strong man suffer so much. We were marriied almost 24 years
About 6 months ago I met a really wonder man
We both have been through so much
He with a very messy divorce, me with death
But I really feel we are good for each other
Taking it slow very slow. I really did not every think I would be able to have these feelings again
I still miss my husband so much, not sure I will ever get over him, I know he is in a much better place now, he made me promise him I would not live the rest of my life alone, I really think he had a hand in me meeting Mike, I really think he would be happy for me.
HI Sharon. I’m so happy for you. Yes, we get surprised, don’t we? We come away from something devastating – heartbreaking – and then something wonderful happens. My story is similar, so I sort of get it. And I KNOW you husband would be happy for you. And of course you still miss him. He has an always-place in your heart. He will never be replaced – but you can heal and grow. And you are doing that. Thank you for sharing!
I lost my husband also almost 3 years ago
After a long battle with heart disease
It just about did me in seeing him going from this big strong man suffer so much. We were marriied almost 24 years
About 6 months ago I met a really wonder man
We both have been through so much
He with a very messy divorce, me with death
But I really feel we are good for each other
Taking it slow very slow. I really did not every think I would be able to have these feelings again
I still miss my husband so much, not sure I will ever get over him, I know he is in a much better place now, he made me promise him I would not live the rest of my life alone, I really think he had a hand in me meeting Mike, I really think he would be happy for me.
HI Sharon. I’m so happy for you. Yes, we get surprised, don’t we? We come away from something devastating – heartbreaking – and then something wonderful happens. My story is similar, so I sort of get it. And I KNOW you husband would be happy for you. And of course you still miss him. He has an always-place in your heart. He will never be replaced – but you can heal and grow. And you are doing that. Thank you for sharing!
My husband left me for another 20 years ago after 18 years of marriage. After breaking my heart i chose to make my children my priority. Then since I’ve tried to meet another, i still have not found anyone who i like who likes me back
The loneliness has become unbearable. Hard as i try, all zest has gone out of my life. What do i do??
HI Kathy. I’m so sorry. I know the sense of betrayal, rejection, and a lot of other things is huge – even from 20 years ago. I’m so sorry. After something like that, it really complicates things – it messes with our hearts and minds. We wonder about ourselves – are we okay, are we acceptable, is there something wrong with us, etc. Ugh. Do you have some safe people in your life that you can talk with about this – that you can share with, without fear of judgment?
My husband left me for another 20 years ago after 18 years of marriage. After breaking my heart i chose to make my children my priority. Then since I’ve tried to meet another, i still have not found anyone who i like who likes me back
The loneliness has become unbearable. Hard as i try, all zest has gone out of my life. What do i do??
HI Kathy. I’m so sorry. I know the sense of betrayal, rejection, and a lot of other things is huge – even from 20 years ago. I’m so sorry. After something like that, it really complicates things – it messes with our hearts and minds. We wonder about ourselves – are we okay, are we acceptable, is there something wrong with us, etc. Ugh. Do you have some safe people in your life that you can talk with about this – that you can share with, without fear of judgment?
My husband left me for another 20 years ago after 18 years of marriage. After breaking my heart i chose to make my children my priority. Then since I’ve tried to meet another, i still have not found anyone who i like who likes me back
The loneliness has become unbearable. Hard as i try, all zest has gone out of my life. What do i do??
HI Kathy. I’m so sorry. I know the sense of betrayal, rejection, and a lot of other things is huge – even from 20 years ago. I’m so sorry. After something like that, it really complicates things – it messes with our hearts and minds. We wonder about ourselves – are we okay, are we acceptable, is there something wrong with us, etc. Ugh. Do you have some safe people in your life that you can talk with about this – that you can share with, without fear of judgment?
it seems like i stay lonely all the time. mostly at night i try to stay busy in the daytime . i lost so many 2 daughters cancer and my soulmate of 56 years who served God and his country in the air force for 30 years if he would have lived we would have been married for 67 years. i live alone with my little dog i have good neighboros, but that does not take there place i have 2 children left who lives out of town but i see them often . just to many i could make list of what i have been thru . Some one told me if i write it all down it would help , but it does not just two many i have lost and i dream good things about them . and i know i will see them one day.
Hi Daisy. Oh my. I’m so, so sorry. What huge, massive losses! No wonder you feel lonely – how could you not? Oh my. Praying for you now…
it seems like i stay lonely all the time. mostly at night i try to stay busy in the daytime . i lost so many 2 daughters cancer and my soulmate of 56 years who served God and his country in the air force for 30 years if he would have lived we would have been married for 67 years. i live alone with my little dog i have good neighboros, but that does not take there place i have 2 children left who lives out of town but i see them often . just to many i could make list of what i have been thru . Some one told me if i write it all down it would help , but it does not just two many i have lost and i dream good things about them . and i know i will see them one day.
Hi Daisy. Oh my. I’m so, so sorry. What huge, massive losses! No wonder you feel lonely – how could you not? Oh my. Praying for you now…
it seems like i stay lonely all the time. mostly at night i try to stay busy in the daytime . i lost so many 2 daughters cancer and my soulmate of 56 years who served God and his country in the air force for 30 years if he would have lived we would have been married for 67 years. i live alone with my little dog i have good neighboros, but that does not take there place i have 2 children left who lives out of town but i see them often . just to many i could make list of what i have been thru . Some one told me if i write it all down it would help , but it does not just two many i have lost and i dream good things about them . and i know i will see them one day.
Hi Daisy. Oh my. I’m so, so sorry. What huge, massive losses! No wonder you feel lonely – how could you not? Oh my. Praying for you now…
I have been alone for two years and it is still very hard at times. My husband was my best friend and we were high school sweethearts, married for 54 years. Times have gotten easier. I stay busier and spend some time “working on me”!! Gary Roe’s articles have certainly helped as well as well as being with other ladies that have experienced times of loneliness. I am still lonely at times but I also feel at peace, feeling my husband’s presence as well as God’s love.
HI Evelyn. Thanks for sharing. You put it beautifully. Peace is a wonderful thing – and the presence of those we love, and especially God’s presence, is a great, great gift. Blessings to you!
I have been alone for two years and it is still very hard at times. My husband was my best friend and we were high school sweethearts, married for 54 years. Times have gotten easier. I stay busier and spend some time “working on me”!! Gary Roe’s articles have certainly helped as well as well as being with other ladies that have experienced times of loneliness. I am still lonely at times but I also feel at peace, feeling my husband’s presence as well as God’s love.
HI Evelyn. Thanks for sharing. You put it beautifully. Peace is a wonderful thing – and the presence of those we love, and especially God’s presence, is a great, great gift. Blessings to you!
I have been alone for two years and it is still very hard at times. My husband was my best friend and we were high school sweethearts, married for 54 years. Times have gotten easier. I stay busier and spend some time “working on me”!! Gary Roe’s articles have certainly helped as well as well as being with other ladies that have experienced times of loneliness. I am still lonely at times but I also feel at peace, feeling my husband’s presence as well as God’s love.
HI Evelyn. Thanks for sharing. You put it beautifully. Peace is a wonderful thing – and the presence of those we love, and especially God’s presence, is a great, great gift. Blessings to you!
Hi Gary! 13 months ago, I lost my beloved husband of 36 years to an abdominal aortic aneurysm…..it was very fast, thank God he didn’t suffer…..but oh my, the devastation, the heartbreak, the anger, the frustration…..he died just two days after our 36th wedding anniversary…..the pain has been so excruciating…I miss him more than words can ever say……he was not only my beloved husband, but my best friend, lover, soul mate…..I think we crammed about 50 years of “living life to the fullest,” into 36! We rode motorcycles for 9 years before our son was born (I had 4 miscarriages as well), then we were finally blessed with one son, who’s 28 years old now…..we did tons of travelling, our son has been to Disney World 10 times! Also, we took one final family trip….a cruise to Alaska, as hubby had always wanted to go there…..something kept “telling me” that I needed to make this happen…..he was a union trucker for 33 years and worked so hard to provide a great living for us…..I wanted to do this cruise as kind of a “thank you” to him and appreciation for all his hard work…..he made the cruise…..it was fabulous! Then……just a year later, he was gone…….we are a Christian family and know he’s in Heaven with the Lord…..but, it still hurts and hurts so badly…..I cling to the Lord, many times I cry out to Him to carry me, even after 13 months, I still hurt so badly…..my heart is still crushed, and I can’t begin to tell you how much I miss him…….I have begged the Lord to take me home so I could be with hubby……….fortunately, I’ve been very blessed to get into an incredible Christian women’s grief support group, Grief Share……it’s helping me tremendously and have a really good church family…….still, sometimes, I do feel so alone, but I can feel his spirit near me….I want to touch him one more time, want to hug him one more time……but I can’t……….Thanks for listening….please keep me in your prayers, as I’m still hurting so badly!
Hi Nora. Thanks so much for sharing. I’m so sorry about your husband. Goodness. Sounds like you enjoyed each other so much. I’m glad you’re surrounded by some safe people who know grief – that makes all the difference sometimes. I’m glad your faith is sustaining you – that makes all the difference too! Praying for you now…Hang in there. Keep talking. Breathe deeply.
Hi Gary! 13 months ago, I lost my beloved husband of 36 years to an abdominal aortic aneurysm…..it was very fast, thank God he didn’t suffer…..but oh my, the devastation, the heartbreak, the anger, the frustration…..he died just two days after our 36th wedding anniversary…..the pain has been so excruciating…I miss him more than words can ever say……he was not only my beloved husband, but my best friend, lover, soul mate…..I think we crammed about 50 years of “living life to the fullest,” into 36! We rode motorcycles for 9 years before our son was born (I had 4 miscarriages as well), then we were finally blessed with one son, who’s 28 years old now…..we did tons of travelling, our son has been to Disney World 10 times! Also, we took one final family trip….a cruise to Alaska, as hubby had always wanted to go there…..something kept “telling me” that I needed to make this happen…..he was a union trucker for 33 years and worked so hard to provide a great living for us…..I wanted to do this cruise as kind of a “thank you” to him and appreciation for all his hard work…..he made the cruise…..it was fabulous! Then……just a year later, he was gone…….we are a Christian family and know he’s in Heaven with the Lord…..but, it still hurts and hurts so badly…..I cling to the Lord, many times I cry out to Him to carry me, even after 13 months, I still hurt so badly…..my heart is still crushed, and I can’t begin to tell you how much I miss him…….I have begged the Lord to take me home so I could be with hubby……….fortunately, I’ve been very blessed to get into an incredible Christian women’s grief support group, Grief Share……it’s helping me tremendously and have a really good church family…….still, sometimes, I do feel so alone, but I can feel his spirit near me….I want to touch him one more time, want to hug him one more time……but I can’t……….Thanks for listening….please keep me in your prayers, as I’m still hurting so badly!
Hi Nora. Thanks so much for sharing. I’m so sorry about your husband. Goodness. Sounds like you enjoyed each other so much. I’m glad you’re surrounded by some safe people who know grief – that makes all the difference sometimes. I’m glad your faith is sustaining you – that makes all the difference too! Praying for you now…Hang in there. Keep talking. Breathe deeply.
Hi Gary! 13 months ago, I lost my beloved husband of 36 years to an abdominal aortic aneurysm…..it was very fast, thank God he didn’t suffer…..but oh my, the devastation, the heartbreak, the anger, the frustration…..he died just two days after our 36th wedding anniversary…..the pain has been so excruciating…I miss him more than words can ever say……he was not only my beloved husband, but my best friend, lover, soul mate…..I think we crammed about 50 years of “living life to the fullest,” into 36! We rode motorcycles for 9 years before our son was born (I had 4 miscarriages as well), then we were finally blessed with one son, who’s 28 years old now…..we did tons of travelling, our son has been to Disney World 10 times! Also, we took one final family trip….a cruise to Alaska, as hubby had always wanted to go there…..something kept “telling me” that I needed to make this happen…..he was a union trucker for 33 years and worked so hard to provide a great living for us…..I wanted to do this cruise as kind of a “thank you” to him and appreciation for all his hard work…..he made the cruise…..it was fabulous! Then……just a year later, he was gone…….we are a Christian family and know he’s in Heaven with the Lord…..but, it still hurts and hurts so badly…..I cling to the Lord, many times I cry out to Him to carry me, even after 13 months, I still hurt so badly…..my heart is still crushed, and I can’t begin to tell you how much I miss him…….I have begged the Lord to take me home so I could be with hubby……….fortunately, I’ve been very blessed to get into an incredible Christian women’s grief support group, Grief Share……it’s helping me tremendously and have a really good church family…….still, sometimes, I do feel so alone, but I can feel his spirit near me….I want to touch him one more time, want to hug him one more time……but I can’t……….Thanks for listening….please keep me in your prayers, as I’m still hurting so badly!
Hi Nora. Thanks so much for sharing. I’m so sorry about your husband. Goodness. Sounds like you enjoyed each other so much. I’m glad you’re surrounded by some safe people who know grief – that makes all the difference sometimes. I’m glad your faith is sustaining you – that makes all the difference too! Praying for you now…Hang in there. Keep talking. Breathe deeply.
I lost my husband eight years ago and now i have lost my dog-My dog gave me a reason to get up in the morning and some one to take care of.Now i am really a lone.I so was hoping i would go first before either one of them but that did not happen.I am so unhappy
Hi Nicky. I’m so, so sorry. No wonder you’re unhappy. I’m here. Feel free to share any time. Hang in there, and let us know if there’s anything we can do.
I lost my husband eight years ago and now i have lost my dog-My dog gave me a reason to get up in the morning and some one to take care of.Now i am really a lone.I so was hoping i would go first before either one of them but that did not happen.I am so unhappy
Hi Nicky. I’m so, so sorry. No wonder you’re unhappy. I’m here. Feel free to share any time. Hang in there, and let us know if there’s anything we can do.
I lost my husband eight years ago and now i have lost my dog-My dog gave me a reason to get up in the morning and some one to take care of.Now i am really a lone.I so was hoping i would go first before either one of them but that did not happen.I am so unhappy
Hi Nicky. I’m so, so sorry. No wonder you’re unhappy. I’m here. Feel free to share any time. Hang in there, and let us know if there’s anything we can do.
This is an area I really struggle with. I have family and friends who are good to me. It is so hard living without my husband, I miss his companionship so much. I do have my safe people, other ladies who have lost their husbands to. We laugh and cry together. We get together at least once a month. Good article and so true!
Hi Sandra. Thank you for sharing. Good for you! You’ve taken some great steps. But even with all this, goodness, it’s hard. I’m so glad you have those safe people – they make all the difference. Hang in there!
I know what you are talking about
The loneliness is overwhelming at times. I think it has a lot to do with not having that special person and not being special to someone else. I was married for 48 years to my high school sweetheart. Now that he is gone I am lost in this world, no matter who else is around I still have to deal with life without him.
It has been almost three years and I am still waiting for the pain to end.
I know God is using me to help others, but sometimes I feel like such a failure because I still have so much pain from loosing my one true love.
Hi Margery. Three years is nothing compared to 48. No wonder you’re hurting. You’re far from a failure – though I know it can feel that way sometimes. When we’re in pain and missing someone, things can seem so dark and foggy. Hang in there. Breathe deeply. You WILL make it through this.
This is an area I really struggle with. I have family and friends who are good to me. It is so hard living without my husband, I miss his companionship so much. I do have my safe people, other ladies who have lost their husbands to. We laugh and cry together. We get together at least once a month. Good article and so true!
Hi Sandra. Thank you for sharing. Good for you! You’ve taken some great steps. But even with all this, goodness, it’s hard. I’m so glad you have those safe people – they make all the difference. Hang in there!
I know what you are talking about
The loneliness is overwhelming at times. I think it has a lot to do with not having that special person and not being special to someone else. I was married for 48 years to my high school sweetheart. Now that he is gone I am lost in this world, no matter who else is around I still have to deal with life without him.
It has been almost three years and I am still waiting for the pain to end.
I know God is using me to help others, but sometimes I feel like such a failure because I still have so much pain from loosing my one true love.
Hi Margery. Three years is nothing compared to 48. No wonder you’re hurting. You’re far from a failure – though I know it can feel that way sometimes. When we’re in pain and missing someone, things can seem so dark and foggy. Hang in there. Breathe deeply. You WILL make it through this.
This is an area I really struggle with. I have family and friends who are good to me. It is so hard living without my husband, I miss his companionship so much. I do have my safe people, other ladies who have lost their husbands to. We laugh and cry together. We get together at least once a month. Good article and so true!
Hi Sandra. Thank you for sharing. Good for you! You’ve taken some great steps. But even with all this, goodness, it’s hard. I’m so glad you have those safe people – they make all the difference. Hang in there!
I know what you are talking about
The loneliness is overwhelming at times. I think it has a lot to do with not having that special person and not being special to someone else. I was married for 48 years to my high school sweetheart. Now that he is gone I am lost in this world, no matter who else is around I still have to deal with life without him.
It has been almost three years and I am still waiting for the pain to end.
I know God is using me to help others, but sometimes I feel like such a failure because I still have so much pain from loosing my one true love.
Hi Margery. Three years is nothing compared to 48. No wonder you’re hurting. You’re far from a failure – though I know it can feel that way sometimes. When we’re in pain and missing someone, things can seem so dark and foggy. Hang in there. Breathe deeply. You WILL make it through this.
A wonderful write-up. My first two winters alone were horrible. Going into my third without my husband, Mike has me a bit anxious. The leaves are beginning to turn, and I know it’s coming.
My social circle has grown somewhat, but that fear of the feelings I had lingers. I know I’m in a different place now. Grief is still here, but it’s always changing and moving. I just keep praying that this winter I’m on a better course. I believe I am…so we’ll see. Thanks, Gary! Your material is a comfort.
Hi Justine. Thanks for sharing, and for your encouragement. Yes, I believe you’re on a good course. You’re processing. You’re aware. Sounds like you’re taking care of your heart. If there’s anything I can do for you, please let me know. You will do well – I know it!
A wonderful write-up. My first two winters alone were horrible. Going into my third without my husband, Mike has me a bit anxious. The leaves are beginning to turn, and I know it’s coming.
My social circle has grown somewhat, but that fear of the feelings I had lingers. I know I’m in a different place now. Grief is still here, but it’s always changing and moving. I just keep praying that this winter I’m on a better course. I believe I am…so we’ll see. Thanks, Gary! Your material is a comfort.
Hi Justine. Thanks for sharing, and for your encouragement. Yes, I believe you’re on a good course. You’re processing. You’re aware. Sounds like you’re taking care of your heart. If there’s anything I can do for you, please let me know. You will do well – I know it!
A wonderful write-up. My first two winters alone were horrible. Going into my third without my husband, Mike has me a bit anxious. The leaves are beginning to turn, and I know it’s coming.
My social circle has grown somewhat, but that fear of the feelings I had lingers. I know I’m in a different place now. Grief is still here, but it’s always changing and moving. I just keep praying that this winter I’m on a better course. I believe I am…so we’ll see. Thanks, Gary! Your material is a comfort.
Hi Justine. Thanks for sharing, and for your encouragement. Yes, I believe you’re on a good course. You’re processing. You’re aware. Sounds like you’re taking care of your heart. If there’s anything I can do for you, please let me know. You will do well – I know it!
Yes I feel lonely at times, but I can feel the presence of my loved one with me.
Hi Penny. Wonderful. And that makes all the difference!
Yes I feel lonely at times, but I can feel the presence of my loved one with me.
Hi Penny. Wonderful. And that makes all the difference!
Yes I feel lonely at times, but I can feel the presence of my loved one with me.
Hi Penny. Wonderful. And that makes all the difference!