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[dropcap2 variation=”coffee”]”T[/dropcap2]his hurts,” Sandy whispered, her face hidden in her hands.
Sandy had just lost her mother. She knew it was coming. She’d known for months. She was well prepared.
“I know,” I said. “I’m sorry.”
With that, she let loose and wept, clutching a dishcloth, the last thing her mother knitted before her fingers lost their coordination.
She rocked back and forth, weeping.
“It hurts!” she wailed.
Whatever our loss, it hurts. That’s the nature of loss. Something precious has been taken away. Someone special is gone. Things will never be the same. The holidays will never be the same.
That’s a key to good grief. Life is not the same. Things are different now. It hurts.
If we allow ourselves to feel the pain, it frees us to move through it. If we try to avoid it, the buried hurt festers. It will surface again, most likely in unhealthy ways that damage our health or relationships. The only way past the pain is through it.
“It hurts!”
It does. It should. Feel it. Hang on.
This is good grief – grief that heals.
GOOD GRIEF PRINCIPLE: Loss creates pain. The only way past the pain is through it.
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